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Rainbow Roxy's avatar

Insightful. The contrast between Calgary's measured politeness and Manila's vibrant, boundary-less energy is fascinating. How has this specific dynamic shaped your re-assimilation in practise?

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Pasta Garcia's avatar

I love this! oohh it was the biggest reverse culture shock in my life! I've always been an introvert, but growing up in a fiesta-coded country meant my mind was always pre-occupied. i never ran out of Inspiration to write about anything! But now that I'm back, the loudness, the constant movement - they're all so overwhelming.

But in Calgary, sweet as ice cream as it is, is too rigid for my taste. I love Calgary but it was like a 12 year yoga-session where all I did was meditate by myself and stretch into impossible poses until my mind broke from the silence 😵‍💫. What's crazy is I kinda miss it big time!

so I'm not sure Ill5ever get fully acclimated in either cities. I'm yet to find a sweet spot where I get the best of both worlds hahaha! Maybe this means... I should move to Japan? 👀

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Pasta Garcia's avatar

as far as what changed me.... I guess I avoided answering that altogether huh? HAHAHAHA

MENTAL ILLNESS 😵‍💫 that's what changed me 😭🤣 but on a serious note, I'm more resilient. I'm a more colorful writer. and I definitely appreciate both extremes now... altho I wish I found a middle ground somewhere 🥰

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Joshua Pantalleresco's avatar

A lot of what you wrote about Calgary is why I left it. I'm experiencing my own chaos in Belize and Mexico. It's so much more alive here. It's not perfect, but I could definitely see myself coming back here. People live here. Glad you're happier home.

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Pasta Garcia's avatar

I can't say I hate Calgary. I still miss it from time to time. But I'm so glad we took the courage to fly home 🥰🥰🥰 it's important to live our lives fully

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Joshua Pantalleresco's avatar

I’m with you. I don’t hate it at all. I like it and a lot of people there. Just post pandemic, everyone doesn’t want to hang. It’s shallow as you put it. Seen it myself.

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Dido Miranda's avatar

"Back in Calgary, meals were mine: my portions, my plate, my fridge.

"Here, everything’s shared. When you eat at a Filipino table, you don’t just eat — you participate...."

"Kain tayo!!!" comes to mind. :)

What a coincidence, my wife and I taught the two youngest of our nine grandkids to learn to say that very hospitable phrase just a few hours ago.

God willing, they will be in the Philippines for the first time in February.

As for me, it would be forty years

(except for a very brief visit years ago)

since we left for America.

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Pasta Garcia's avatar

What an awesome way to start the year for the kids! 😍 I'm sure they'll love it!

40 years?! 🤯 you deserve a 6-month long visit back to the Philippines! 💛💛💛

There truly is no place like home 🥰🥰🥰

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Sweetheart's avatar

A Phillipines birday in Oz

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